FIXING UP IS HARD TO DO

is being the target for numerous fix-ups a compliment or an insult?

it'd be the former if you're known to be too busy to socialize and your friends are eager to induct you into their mundane hood of the couple.

now it'd be the latter if suddenly, too many people (friends and acquaintances) want to hook you up with whoever they can think of...regardless of how the fella works or even stopping to think if the two subjects would be able to click.

last night was the latest episode in the "fix-serene-up-with-my-other-friend" saga.

jas, who used to have a crush on me (and is getting married at the end of the year), said the topic of ME came up in a conversation he had with his fiancee.

she told him she knows of a single PE teacher, pro soccer player and avid dancer who'd probably work out.

jas added that "he's cute-looking".

for starters, i'm terribly skeptical about fix-ups.

i mean...people think they know me well enough to know what kinda HE would mesh with me.

just about two months back, my friend of 10 years asked if i was interested in going out with this "terrific guy who salsas, is smart and has numerous accomplishments under his belt".

she immediately post-scripts that statement with "i don't think you go for good-looking guys right?"

you can imagine how hilarious that conversation turned out to be...

none of the fix-ups ever came through...thank god.

look. i don't have a list of attributes to describe a fella i'd like to hang with.

though after doing salsa for a while, i'd like to start off with liberality.

it takes a big man to be able to keep still while watching his girlfriend exchange glances and heated moves with her dance partner.

so what if he should dance? it would still take a lot for him to not bat an eyelid when someone asks her for a dance.

i often watch in fascination as boyfriends eye the men who dance with their partners, thinking "how the hell can people become so bloody possessive?"

flashback to a chat with my home girls...

"when you love someone, you want to own her. you know she's an individual, but somehow, you still want to encompass her. you want to know that she's yours. it's selfish, but love is selfish."

ah.

but i'd still want to dance with other men. =)